Identification of Neurosis

Recovery

The time came when he settled down with the fact that we need actually do something about it , without overthinking the outcomes and without fearing “what will happen if ” situation.

Gradually, he started recovering from the wounds. The only optimistic approach he followed was we do see and say that the pain has it’s impression on us and leaves the wounds behind. What if I consider, that the happy times also had wounds and impressions, then I would be filled with the unpainful of the kind and embracing it at all the costs .

Take your time

Though in real terms, he still had to discover a lot, but he kept trying and trying and trying. It wasn’t easy, but we need to understand nothing is easy, we make it work for us as per out capabilities. If we need to change something, work on it. Never ever miss the opportunities and you landed on earth with a purpose.

Just, keep reminding , there’s a lot that people are suffering. Don’t loose hope ,neurosis might be the state of mind, acknowledge it and work on it , without pushing yourself in the grey area.

You are worthy. He kept repeating these affirmations only the daily basis and recovered y giving himself time, some might get through it in weeks , some in months and a few like me in years. Which is totally fine, “take your time” .

He is on the path of recovery , we all heal. Nothing is static , neither is sadness nor happiness.

A person working as a regular employee, good salary in one of the leading software companies . Everything felt in place , family was doing good as well. But then came the time , when there was Tsunami of problems in his personal life.

Something w.r.t to the unacceptance of a very important decision of his life from the close ones. Eventually, he didn’t realize how these small patches and patterns of stress and anxiety started impacting his health, daily routine and most importantly his mental health.

The things started to escalate in the office due to a vivid outcome and the lack of focus .Then he realized and reminded himself of one of the phases shared by one of his teachers “never mix your two lives, professional and personal”.

So, that was the very first realization of his disturbed mental peace.

The winter chimes

With the ongoing chores around his head , he was all over the place, trying to figure out the solutions .

This happens with all of us, that one way or the other we have to prioritize and get to know the need of the hour. He tried resiliently , to bounce back . But failed , then he tried again , this time he was a bit successful to cope with the situation but he was still having hard time. The work piled up, stress shoot up and he lost his confidence by what he was getting the feedbacks from the colleagues.

So, here he was sinking into the thoughts of the future possibilities and “WHAT IF” situations. Even the fellow colleagues were pressurizing indirectly and never liked that individual. This made really hard for him to get out of the grey area.

Still he continued to balance out , by stretching his working hours and the life again took a bit of momentum. He felt really vulnerable at this moment , doubting all his decisions from entering to engineering because he was a bit inclined towards semiconductors to choosing a life partner he was fighting for.

Use of social platforms

To calm his anxiety , social media really played a huge role, due to various other interests he had like singing, learning the instruments and posting it over his personal account .This kept him moving and if we see ,we all do enjoy social platforms for the same if not for validation then it’s form of a therapy to many .

But again, the coworkers tried making issues out of that as well. Discussing his personal interests and the postings over lunch in his absence and that frustration or negativity was visible in the emails itself.

Imagine getting comments like “Other than office work he is able to do everything” or “yeah you are good at managing things, just do that extra work in the office, the only thing that you can do” . Lesser did they know, what was he going through. This ride of emotions and bearing sinked his heart 24*7 .

His health deteriorated , office pathetically going nuts , personal life entangled . This kind of scenarios are extremely common. There’s only one thing that keep you going is “just do it , don’t overthink”. If you have 10 tasks in hand , don’t think to do all like some magic is gonna happen. List down all the tasks , just start going the first one ,keeping all the worries aside, as if you only have one task that to need to complete as soon as you can, then switch to the second one and so on. Atleast, you will be able to complete some percentage of the work, instead of just thinking about it and start with multiple things in hand and again exhausting yourself. He did the same, nothing dramatically changed , but things started altering eventually. All the co-workers were removed from the his social networks, giving him the freedom of speech/expression. He started finding the solutions to his problems one after another and succeeded.

The most important thing here is “keep going now matter what , put your true self out there ,whatever comes let’s face it” . With this fancy lifestyles that are be portrait over internet ,people have a very different set of expectations : money/cars/bank balances i.e. materialistic world. No doubt in there that money is mandatory to survive and to better the lifestyle. But happiness in what your are working on, is really important .

For some, work might be the only thing that fascinates and push them to work more. But it’s not the same with everyone. By the way, people do say that we should talk to our friends about the issues, that’s right , but friends means the real friends , the definition of friends changes with your experiences .

So , choose those people wisely , with whom you are sharing the details and personal issues. The trick, I try is writing down about my feelings in an email and then save it as a draft and try tricking my mind to save the products in the wish list and not buy immediately, this helps me to not unimportant buy things unnecessarily.

The bumble

Now, with the things that were going in line for a year. Now, again at the end of this year, he was about the encounter his family regarding the personal issue that they were suppose to discuss again due to the rigidity to the topic. All the efforts went in vain, due to emotional blackmailing he was going through. The office schedule again hit a rock bottom. The worst part is the partner he was fighting for cheated on him and that traumatic situation was unbearable and he took the time of a whole year to get over it. But with the immense pain inside and shattered career. I was still going with the flow, proving this worth in the team ,in his life. Now ,he got to a point where he was about to give up on his job considering that it might be the opportunity for him to shine.

See , that’s true if you are trying and failing that is not a bummer, but if you are not trying and have given up to even try that’s the real failure. It might take long or short , but eventually you will fit into your tribe once you figure out, where you could do better.

To be continued…..

Hi, I am Alka Judge, working as product validation engineer at Cadence design systems . My main purpose of writing this blog how I identified that people suffering from stress and anxiety are unknowingly getting shackled in it and the ways to acknowledge the hurdles as the part of life .

Neurosis

A relatively mild mental illness that is not caused by organic disease, involving symptoms of stress (depression, anxiety, obsessive behaviour, hypochondria) but not a radical loss of touch with reality.

This is an extremely common kind of illness that starts growing and we are not able to recognize it in the early stages. When it’s at the peak, it definitely takes a efforts to remove it .

Thus, I will try to help you with my experiences. Therefore, this blog will be more of a narrative form and we will learn the outcomes/solutions along the way of precedence. I have some ways to deal with it and are really a personal choice. But, if that could help even a single person in any form that is definitely a win win situation.

Thanks to the person reading this, it might widen the spectrum of your knowledge regarding the same. I am glad you landed on this page to seek some useful data that might relate to you as well.